"I didn't come to 'grill' you about it. Neither am I here to bless your union on behalf of my family, or condemn it. I'm here to help you, like I said before." A breath, then an exhale, almost like a sigh. This human was just as friendly as Spock in a similar mood.

"You could, and you have sought professional help, but do you think the Healer you've found knows exactly what he's talking about? Any properly trained Healer can learn the procedures and remember the testimonials, but do you think he's experienced it? It's like captaining a starship. You most likely read about it while you were studying to be an officer, but does it capture the entire scope of the job or experience? I doubt it, so I'm ensuring you don't make a decision with only half the knowledge that's available to you."